Elephant in the Room...A secret cause of broken relationships

Wherever we turn there seems to be a proliferation of conflict in today's world. Wars between countries, discrimination between races, bickering between friends  and broken relationships in families. It seems as though a spirit of division has been let loose over the whole world. It sounds like I am being figurative, doesn’t it? But what if I told you that spiritual warfare is the literal cause of much of the strife we experience at every level in society today?

In my own life I have noticed that conflicts with those closest to me occur when I am at the cusp of radical spiritual advancement. Why is that? Is it purely coincidental? Could it be that there are forces at work that realise the power of unity and want to sabotage any positive impact we can have on the kingdom as a unified front before it even begins?

What is the power in unity? What is the power in friendship? The following are just a few tokens of wisdom from the Word of God on the subject:

Ecclesiastes 4: 9

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

Proverbs 17:17

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity”

Proverbs 27:17

“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”

Deuteronomy 32:30 speaks of one person putting 1000 to flight while two put 10000 to flight.

 The compounded returns of friendship and love relationships make them some of the most valuable weapons in favour of God’s Kingdom. Think about it: if there was unity in Christian marriages, then those couples would come together and compound their spiritual resources to further God’s work in the earth. They would go on to teach their children God’s ways, greatly increasing the likelihood of raising Godly children who would go on to do as they had done. Generations of warriors for God would go on to conquer and to claim spiritual territory for God. Similarly, if Christian friendships were allowed to flourish, then there would be people growing in love and strengthening one another in the faith. The world would in turn look at them as their spiritual light shone, and they would be able to say “we knew they were Christians by their love” as was the case with the early Christians at Antioch. This is the very reason that friendships, and unity as a whole is under attack in this present day.


What is a secret cause of broken relationships? We as Christians need to become vigilant and see beyond what’s obvious to the naked eye. Have we been allowing seeds of distrust, envy, jealousy and hatred to take root in our hearts toward others? Have we allowed ourselves to become pawns in the hands of those who oppose God’s Holy agenda in the earth? Have we stopped to examine the spiritual ramifications of our broken relationships? What does the Kingdom of God stand to lose if we go through with letting our relationships fall to ruin? What does the Enemy stand to gain?

As I was reminded recently, in every aspect of our lives Ephesians 6:10 – 12 is more real than we care to think at times:

"A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.